A while ago, I was put in a very difficult position when I found out that someone was saying unpleasant things about me. To put it in a nutshell, this person who I used to respect was acting like a spoilt brat who’d had his sneaky plan exposed and thrown to the winds.
This person would say things to others like “How is she? I heard she lost weight. Is she unwell?” which I felt was snide and very uncalled for because of the implications. Initially, I thought to be generous and “turn the other cheek” but after a while all the snide remarks and one in particular got me so riled, that I decided immediately that there was no way I was going to be Ms. Nice Girl anymore.
Out sprouted the horns and the forked tail. In fact, when I heard the last comment about me (which was petty and totally uncalled for in my opinion) I blew my top and declared in a fit of frustration that I was never going to ever see this person again.
Ever.
Even if I did, I swore I will still “not see him” i.e. I was going to turn on my charm and see THROUGH him because he just doesn’t exist for me anymore. Not after the awful way I have been treated.
Anyway, 6 months have passed and I’ve been in blissful existence away from this suffocating individual albeit I get the snide feedback from time to time.
Then, I was told that there is a lunch next week by this obnoxious individual where I am invited to attend. Herein lies the conundrum.
Do I:
(a) give “face” and attend, thereby opening myself to being provoked and pissed off, but retaining my social integrity?
(b) not give “face” and refuse to attend thereby sending the message that I will not forgive and forget?
If I attend, I’ll have to act like nothing’s happened, which is honestly, impossible. It’d be an hour of faking smiles and friendly chit chat and enduring sarcasm. Not something I’m keen on.
If I don’t, I’d probably get more snide comments about what a Ms. Prissy I am.
You know, I think I can live with being Ms. Prissy. So, give face or not?
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You can have option 3 too. Attend and THEN make him feel sorry for what he did. Catch my drift? *hides horns and forked tail and scampers away*
Depends on your character and what is worth your time. We all can be fake and pretentious for an hour or so…not a problem. But at the end of the day, is this person worth your while?
The way I see it, this is a bait from him…
I am sure you are more big-hearted than that guy
Go.
GT: I suppose that’s an option but you know meeting someone on their own territory is never a very good idea.
Sesame: I saw it the same way too - a bait. I don’t think its worth the stress. Way I see it, if no one turns up, that’s enough of a slap.
Pablo: You over estimate me
I don’t think I can be civil enough
I once skipped a wedding invitation of a girl I don’t care. She did the similar things like your friend, in fact, she rallied the whole gang of people against me.
Ppl learnt the truth many years later, but I didn’t care keeping in touch with anyone who believed her despite knowing me for years.
I’ve blown off my lid before and I imagine the reactions were, “Check that out…the tiger finally shows her stripes.”
If he ain’t worth it, don’t give him the satisfaction of your reaction. Dress to kill, attend and charm the pants off everyone.
Him? Kill him with kindness. That’s bound to leave people wondering…
no give face!
I’m with GT on this. Having been subject to somewhat similar treatment lately, I’ve found the best thing is to show up and steal the show. Lagi dia frus. HAH!
Don’t do stuff like show up and when he approaches you, you stammer. When he comes up to you, you show him who da boss, who da (wo)man and who got da bling. But in a subtle manner of course - you’ve got class, right! :)))
I vote for Miss Prissy. To hell with him. You will be better off eating instant noodles.
Leah: I did the same as you. She was dead unpleasant to me. Dang.
Kittycat: Thanks for the advice. I would have done as you said - maybe in a more public function
Wuching: Yay!
Cheesey: *flicks hair* Wait till I meet him in a purely social setting! This one with staff and all on his territory so not a good idea to strut my stuff.
SA: Ms Prissy it shall be! And I like instant noodles